Self-Discovery is the First Step of Your Journey of Self-Love.


This step is where you’ll consciously focus on discovering everything you can about yourself (your whole life). You will discover all of your personal history, family history, culture, etc.  Gaining new insight about who you are will help you build a stronger sense of self.  Gathering information is the primary focus of this step. Dig deep into your unique background anticipating finding many buried pieces that you are ready to face and embrace. Enjoy your search.

Please follow the instructions in your Self-Love Guide. Take your time and give yourself permission to grow.


Write Your Life Story 

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Every woman has a story, and it is through our stories that we pass from one gateway of life to the next. The very essence of a woman’s life is a compilation of her experiences.




It’s now time for you to follow your Self-Discovery instructions on page 25 section B. 



  Personality Test 

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Personality refers to individual differences in characteristic patterns of thinking, feeling and behaving. The study of personality focuses on two broad areas: One is understanding individual differences in particular personality characteristics, such as sociability or irritability. The other is understanding how the various parts of a person come together as a whole.




TAKE TEST AS DIRECTED IN SELF-LOVE GUIDE  (I recommend that you explore this site with intensity)


Please follow the instructions in your guide at this time.

Self Esteem Test



Self-Esteem reflects a person’s overall subjective (emotional) evaluation of his or her own worth. It is a judgment of oneself as well as an attitude toward the self.

How comfortable are you with yourself? Research suggests the higher your SELF-ESTEEM the happier a life you will have. Indeed, it appears your self-esteem level affects almost, if not every aspect of your psychological self. Knowing your self-esteem level may be very helpful in explaining behaviors you have displayed but don’t really understand. Self-esteem also plays a major role in how we act in relationships. Before taking the assessment, settle yourself and get comfortable. Try to avoid any distractions while responding to the statements. When selecting your responses it is important to think of how you usually are, not just how you are at this moment. It is also very important to be honest with yourself.



What is self-esteem? Self-esteem is how we value ourselves; it is how we perceive our value to the world and how valuable we think we are to others. Self-esteem affects our trust in others, our relationships, our work – nearly every part of our lives. Positive self-esteem gives us the strength and flexibility to take charge of our lives and grow from our mistakes without the fear of rejection.

Here are some outward signs of positive self-esteem:
• Confidence
• Self-direction
• Non-blaming behavior
• An awareness of personal strengths
• An ability to make mistakes and learn from them
• An ability to accept mistakes from others
• Optimism
• An ability to solve problems
• An independent and cooperative attitude
• Feeling comfortable with a wide range of emotions
• An ability to trust others
• A good sense of personal limitations
• Good self-care
• The ability to say no
What is low self-esteem? Low self-esteem is a debilitating condition that keeps individuals from realizing their full potential. A person with low self-esteem feels unworthy, incapable, and incompetent. In fact, because the person with low self-esteem feels so poorly about him or herself, these feelings may actually cause the person’s continued low self-esteem.
Here are some signs of low self-esteem:
• Negative view of life
• Perfectionist attitude
• Mistrusting others – even those who show signs of affection
• Blaming behavior
• Fear of taking risks
• Feelings of being unloved and unlovable
• Dependence – letting others make decisions
• Fear of being ridiculed

Are you ready to find out how you really feel about yourself?


Please follow the instructions in your guide at this time.

Spiritual Belief System Test





Your Belief System

Your belief system is the actual set of precepts (rules of conduct) from which you live your daily life, those which govern your thoughts, words, and actions. Without these precepts you could not function, so in order to take this personal development journey, and to give it some meaning, you must answer the following questions for yourself. It will help you find out where you are, and as with any journey it helps to know where you are starting from. Please understand that this is not an easy thing for most people to do, but it is necessary to see ourselves as we truly are no matter how unpleasant this task may be. Even if you think you know the answers, please read the questions and think about the truthful answers that need to be given. If any part of what you believe is a lie, then you are not acting from a place of truth. For without acting in a way that is completely truthful, you will find that everything you do is a lie, therefore any attempt you might make toward resolving any problem would be in vain.

What do you believe personally about yourself?

Why do you believe it?

The answers to these questions (if we are truthful) define who we are, how we act, and what we truly believe, but we must be brutally honest. People are very strange when it comes to being honest with themselves. We have ways of deceiving ourselves into believing we did the right things, and of course, for the right reasons, but did we? As they say, nobility is not a birthright, it is defined by our actions, which are choices formed by our beliefs. Our beliefs are also choices. If you want to know what your true beliefs are, look at the things you do, the way you treat not just yourself and other people, but everything around you. Look at the way you interact or don’t interact with others. Most importantly look at why, or the reasons behind why you do what you do. What motivated your every thought, word, and action? For these things will tell you about who you are, and what you believe. It is amazing however to find that some people do not have any real beliefs of their own. They never take the time to really think and question, they just take on the attitudes and thought patterns of those around them. People have taken this acceptance of attitudes and thought patterns to the point of willingly being a part of systems that are killing them.

In order to find out what belief system you have, or have adopted, certain questions must be asked. The core of what and who you are starts with whether you Truly believe in one of the following and remember this is not about religion, this is about you.

  1. A supreme being,
  2. Just an existence beyond the physical of some kind
  3. Nothing at all beyond this physical existence.

Since this is the most important aspect of defining who you are:

  • Have you given any thought at all to the belief system you have?
  • Did you make a conscious decision to believe what you do or not?
  • Did you just adopt your parents’, spouse’s, or other’s belief system because it was what you grew up with or just wanted to do?
  • If you did make a decision, did you make an informed decision, or did you just decide arbitrarily(impulse)?
  • If you did make an informed decision, on what information did you base your decision?
  • What was the source of this information?
  • Was the source of the information just what you had heard from people who profess some sort of spiritual or religious practice? If so did you get your information from their pamphlets, info sheets, or instructional material?
  • Have you read any “sacred texts”?
  • Did you research the history of the “sacred texts” or did you just accept or reject them for what they were represented to be?
  • Did you do any research, the in-depth kind you would need to do in preparing a thesis or dissertation?
  • If you haven’t done these things, how important are you to yourself?

If you chose not to believe in a Supreme Being, why? At the time you made your decision, was it because of one of your answers to any of the aforementioned questions? There are more questions that could have been asked, to be sure, covering a greater variety of situations, but for the sake of brevity we’ll move on.

Regardless of how you arrived at your decision not to believe, you used the five basic senses to gather whatever information you used for that decision. On the other hand, there are many things beyond the abilities of your five senses to perceive. Some of these phenomena are detectible only through the use of technology. For example, X-rays, the ultraviolet spectrum, magnetic lines of force, sounds dogs can hear but we cannot, and the list goes on with examples too numerous to mention. There are many things that we don’t know, and we should not be so conceited to believe that we know everything, or anything for that matter. So how could you make a definitive conclusion that something does not exist, based on just what you know, or think you know? Are you still open minded enough to listen to another point of view?

If you chose to believe in a Supreme Being, why? At the time you made your decision, was it because of one of your answers to any of the aforementioned questions? There are more questions that could have been asked for this also, but as stated before, for the sake of brevity we will move on.

For those who believe in a Supreme Being, or God, think about this. What is God? What type of being is God. How does God communicate to people things they need to know, do, and be. Is it that God only talks to a few people, or does God talk to everyone everyday, and only a few people are listening, or more to the point, making the choice to listen? Would everyone hear God in the same way? Do you think cultural differences and personalities would affect the message? What do you think the message is? What do you think the common link between God and humanity is? Is it possible that a piece of God is in each and every person? If this message from God is for everyone, do you suppose it would have to be a simple one? Do you think God would make it so simple anyone could know and understand it, if they truly looked, without the need of any writings? What do you think another person could tell you that God could not? What do you suppose keeps the voice of God so hard to hear? Why is it said that God works in mysterious ways? What makes things a mystery? Things are only mysterious because we lack understanding. Are you still open minded enough to listen to another point of view?

We have a chance, with each thought we think, with each word we speak, with each action we take, to make this a better world. The choice is ours. Belief systems have been talked about throughout this site, but with barely a mention of religion. The reason is because, what we profess to believe in, and what we actually believe, are two different things. Religion these days seems to be something relegated to ritual and ceremony one day a week, if you really do believe in spiritual things, then everything you do, every word you speak, every thought you have is an act of the spirit. 

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Personal Beliefs

Self-Discovery Assessment



Please follow Self-Love Guide Instructions for your assessment.


Self-Discovery Questionnaire



Here is a list of Self-Discovery Assessment Questions. It is recommended that you ask as many Self-Discovery Questions as possible. 

Describe my personality in one word. Example:  Nice or bossy, etc

Can you give me 3-5 of my positive personality traits?

Can you give me 3-5 of my negative personality traits?

Am I high-energy or low-energy? Explain

Am I a hard worker / average worker / or sort of lazy? Explain

Am I reliable? (Most of the time / some of the time/ simple unreliable) Explain

Can you describe my communication style? (passive, aggressive, or assertive) Explain

Am I boring? If yes or no, please explain.

Am I fun? If yes or no, please explain.

Can you trust me with secrets? Explain

Would you consider me a strong-minded person? Explain

Would you consider me a weak-minded person? Explain

What do you like best about me? Details

What do you like least about me? Details

Can you trust my words? Most of the time/ some of the time/I can’t trust your words. Explain

Do I have good self-esteem or low self-esteem? Explain

Am I a scary person or courageous? Explain

Do I over extend myself for other? Explain

Am I a selfish person?     Explain

Am I a loving person? Explain

Am I a giver or a taker? Explain

If you would change 1 thing about me, what would it be? Explain

What do you admire most about me? Explain

What do you dislike most about me? Explain

How do I treat the opposite sex? Explain

Am I a good friend? Explain

Please give me advice that will help make me better.

Please be brutally honest with me, tell me what do most people say about me behind my back, such as

(I am a liar, my body odor smells, I can’t dress good, I am a bad parent).

What do I need to change the most about my life?

Describe my greatest quality? (Example-sense of humor, patience, personality, kindness, honesty)

What talents or gifts do you see in me? Explain

Am I a fair person? Explain

Am I a people pleaser? Explain

Am I a leader? Explain

Am I a spiritual person? Explain

Am I honest? Explain

Am I a liar? Explain

If I had to teach a subject what would it be? Explain

Can you see me becoming a famous person? Explain

Do I get along well with other people? Explain

Would you like to add any more information about me that will help me in Self-Discovery process?

Thank you for your honesty!


Self-Discovery is about seeking the truth.




 A  Goddess is a woman that knows her inner beauty.